The Rebuke Appropriately Spoken (Prov 25:11)
FROM THE EDITOR:
The Book of Devarim was to be placed by the side of the Holy Ark. It was to serve as a rebuke and reminder of Israel's covenant with Hashem to later generations. A good examples of its effect is told us in 2nd Kings 22 when King Josiah and all Israel was pushed to repentance through it seven hundred years later.
The Book of Devarim given as the second generation of the Children of Israel in the desert were readying to enter the Promised Land, was also to serve as a warning for these children of the Children of Israel to not do as their fathers did in fearing entering the Land.
Let us see some of what the sages say about this rebuke,
(Sifre, cited by Rashi)
The Torah emphasizes that Moshe rebuked the Jewish people after he had smitten Sichon and Og. Moshe reasoned, "If I rebuke them before they enter at least part of the Land, they will say, 'What does this man have against us?' What good did he do for us? He has come only to vex us and to find pretext since he doesn't have the power to bring us into the Land.'" Therefore Moshe waited until he had conquered Sichon and Og, and then he rebuked the people.
(From Rabbi Zelig Pliskin)
Had the people felt the Moshe's rebuke was insincere and that he had ulterior motives, his words would have been ineffective. A PERSON WILL ONLY ACCEPT REBUKE IF HE FEELS THAT THE REBUKER HAS HIS BEST INTEREST IN MIND.
We also see from here that timing is a major factor in rebuke. In Many instances by waiting for an opportune time to deliver admonition a person will be more successful than he would have been had he admonished earlier.
FROM THE EDITOR:
As a good leader, Moshe understood the importance of rebuke in the rihgt time, place, tone of voice, form , format etc ...
Let us go over some tips about good , less good, and bad timing for rebuke. These can be used for congregation, work relationships, as well domestic situations.
When is a bad time to approach someone for a rebuke:
When is it a good time to approach someone for a rebuke?
Here is another important point concerning rebuke:
(Deu 1:5) There, beyond the Yarden, in the land of Mo'av, Moshe took it upon himself to expound (ba'ar/באר: to explain, elucidate, interpret) this Torah and said:
This teaches us an important principle: if we speak Torah in order to teach people, we should speak it in a language that helps the recipient to receive the message.
As Moshe was patient with Israel, as our Master is patient with us, may we be patient with one another. and remember His precious words:
... the measure with which you measure out will be used to measure to you.
Why do you see the splinter in your brother's eye but not notice the log in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the splinter out of your eye,' when you have the log in your own eye?
You hypocrite!
First, take the log out of your own eye; then you will see clearly, so that you can remove the splinter from your brother's eye!
(Mat 7:2-5 CJB)
FROM THE EDITOR:
The Book of Devarim was to be placed by the side of the Holy Ark. It was to serve as a rebuke and reminder of Israel's covenant with Hashem to later generations. A good examples of its effect is told us in 2nd Kings 22 when King Josiah and all Israel was pushed to repentance through it seven hundred years later.
The Book of Devarim given as the second generation of the Children of Israel in the desert were readying to enter the Promised Land, was also to serve as a warning for these children of the Children of Israel to not do as their fathers did in fearing entering the Land.
Let us see some of what the sages say about this rebuke,
(Sifre, cited by Rashi)
The Torah emphasizes that Moshe rebuked the Jewish people after he had smitten Sichon and Og. Moshe reasoned, "If I rebuke them before they enter at least part of the Land, they will say, 'What does this man have against us?' What good did he do for us? He has come only to vex us and to find pretext since he doesn't have the power to bring us into the Land.'" Therefore Moshe waited until he had conquered Sichon and Og, and then he rebuked the people.
(From Rabbi Zelig Pliskin)
Had the people felt the Moshe's rebuke was insincere and that he had ulterior motives, his words would have been ineffective. A PERSON WILL ONLY ACCEPT REBUKE IF HE FEELS THAT THE REBUKER HAS HIS BEST INTEREST IN MIND.
We also see from here that timing is a major factor in rebuke. In Many instances by waiting for an opportune time to deliver admonition a person will be more successful than he would have been had he admonished earlier.
FROM THE EDITOR:
As a good leader, Moshe understood the importance of rebuke in the rihgt time, place, tone of voice, form , format etc ...
Let us go over some tips about good , less good, and bad timing for rebuke. These can be used for congregation, work relationships, as well domestic situations.
When is a bad time to approach someone for a rebuke:
- On the heat of the moment; when either the rebuker or rebukee is emotionally upset.
- When it makes us happy or we draw pleasure in doing it.
- Before having fully investigated and understood the issue.
- When we have a personal advantage in the person doing the right thing our rebuke can seem insincere and motivated
- Examples: do we you teach our children to be clean and tidy because you want them to develop good healthy habits that will help them in their lives as adults, or is it just because you don't want to have to clean after them?
- Do we chide our spouses, partners or colleagues about an expense because we want to teach financial responsibility, or just because we don't agree with it and would have spent the money for something that WE want instead?)
- Often our rebukes are made out of frustration because the actions of the other person affect us in an undesirable way, but is being annoyed a good reason to rebuke?
When is it a good time to approach someone for a rebuke?
- After emotions calm down and we see investigate and understand things more clearly.
- When it hurts us to do it.
- When we don't draw any personal advantage in doing it.
Here is another important point concerning rebuke:
(Deu 1:5) There, beyond the Yarden, in the land of Mo'av, Moshe took it upon himself to expound (ba'ar/באר: to explain, elucidate, interpret) this Torah and said:
- The Midrash says that Moshe interpreted this Torah in the 70 languages of the world.
- We don't know for sure, but the Torah also talked about the 10 Commandments being given through flames of fire in the 70 languages of the world
- The Brit also tells us that as soon as the Torah was written in their hearts, It expressed itself through the disciples in many languages. Acts 2.
- All this actually came as a reversal of the Tower of Babel curse.
This teaches us an important principle: if we speak Torah in order to teach people, we should speak it in a language that helps the recipient to receive the message.
- In their own language: If our audience is not familiar with Hebrew terminology, we should not try to impress or patronize them by using Hebrew words.
- In the right manner: Our Master was good at that. He used examples that were familiar to his hearers: fishermen, farmers, inheritances, servant/master relationships... Yeshua spoke parabolic imagery in order to help his less educated hearers understand. All too often our inferiority complex gets the better of us and we try to impress others and/or patronize them, to give ourselves some importance by flaunting some sort of knowledge. But he who really knows never feels the need to boast or brag, because the more we know, the more we should know that we don't know.
- Gently: "... and a slave of the Lord shouldn't fight. On the contrary, he should be kind to everyone, a good teacher, and not resentful when mistreated. Also he should be gentle as he corrects his opponents. For God may perhaps grant them the opportunity to turn from their sins, acquire full knowledge of the truth, come to their senses and escape the trap of the Adversary, after having been captured alive by him to do his will." (2Ti 2:24-26 CJB) "... but we urge you, brothers, to confront those who are lazy, your aim being to help them change, to encourage the timid, to assist the weak, and to be patient with everyone. See that no one repays evil for evil; on the contrary, always try to do good to each other, indeed, to everyone."(1Th 5:14-15 CJB)
As Moshe was patient with Israel, as our Master is patient with us, may we be patient with one another. and remember His precious words:
... the measure with which you measure out will be used to measure to you.
Why do you see the splinter in your brother's eye but not notice the log in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the splinter out of your eye,' when you have the log in your own eye?
You hypocrite!
First, take the log out of your own eye; then you will see clearly, so that you can remove the splinter from your brother's eye!
(Mat 7:2-5 CJB)
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